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Question: Reasons for gay and lesbian couples not adopting?

(Posted by: Never Forget bby <3 on 2010-02-07 12:39:24)

Okay so i have a debate this coming week and our topic is if gays, lesbians, bi's should be able to adopt...i personally am okay with this and i have good reasons...but we we forced by our teacher to go against it b/ c it would "keep the debate interesting. " and so we can 'understand both sides of issues " i cant find statistics that show why it is so bad for the adopted children to not be adopted. b/ c i am fine with it im having a lot of trouble find out why it is so bad. any reliable websites with statistics? any thoughts of why they shouldn't adopt? thanks! okay so i guess that is mostly what i am asking, how does it affect the child in school, bullying and taunting...does bullying affect children with gay parents more than a typical child with straight parents? ugh..some adults are ignorant and unexcepting.... let alone highschool/ middle school kids

Posted by: jesus touched my peepee on 2010-02-07, 12:42:05

American people hate gays. they think its better to leave them with parents that beat them. They also think the child will be gay when they grow up which is stupid to think that but they also think about sky daddy being real.

Posted by: Spencer Reid on 2010-02-07, 12:43:45

There isn't anything wrong with them adopting. I mean, you could be idiotic and go into the whole 'BECAUSE BEING GAY IS WRONG' thing. Or 'THEIR KIDS ARE GOING TO BE GAY', or something just as equally stupid. But this is a terrible topic to debate on.

Posted by: Ethan Rae on 2010-02-07, 12:43:46

Saying that a gay couple can't raise children is saying that a single mother or father isn't proficient enough to raise their child/ ren.

Posted by: Unitarian Universalist on 2010-02-07, 12:44:09

Christians have a lock on the midwest and south, in terms of worldview but have hope: a ten year old in Arkansas of all places is taking a stand in school by not saying the pledge of allegiance.

Posted by: Chicky: Uncommon Ancestor on 2010-02-07, 12:44:21

There are none -- no logical, legal ones anyway. The only reason against it would be that the prevalence of bigotry in America could make the child's life challenging, in spite of having two loving parents. But if having a challenging life is an argument against having or adopting kids, then no one should do it. .

Posted by: Greg on 2010-02-07, 12:44:25

I personally believe that two loving same sex people are a lot better for a child then a foster home. Have you tried this? lesbianlife.about.com/ cs/ families/ a/ adoption.htm

Posted by: Ouroboro on 2010-02-07, 12:45:02

There are a lot of agencies that allow gay adoption. I think they should because some kids go hungry with straight parents, and get brutally abused. I think gay parents would be just as good. Straight people abuse their kids a lot. Okay if there were two mommys the kids would grow up to be gay probably, but if there were two daddys I think they could both share beating the crap out of him if they were violent and got drunk off martinis and stuff... The world is violent place. :(

Posted by: Dana the Great on 2010-02-07, 12:45:23

Children of same-sex couples are twice as likely to experience poverty as the children of different-sex couples. Of course, IMO, allowing same-sex adoption is a good step to eliminating the discrimination that prevents homosexuals from getting equal opportunities in employment, etc., but this is solely for the purpose of your debate. This was found in a UCLA study at the Williams Institute, I can get you a link if you want. law.ucla.edu/ williamsinstitute/ pdf/ LGBPovertyReport.pdf I don't know why I'm getting thumbs-downs. I am a proponent of same-sex adoption, it's just the facts you don't like.

Posted by: Desiree on 2010-02-07, 12:45:25

If it's an issue supported by bonehead Christians, there will be little information or reason behind it.

Posted by: Michael on 2010-02-07, 12:45:27

All you have to do is poke holes in the oppositions arguments, use Extreme examples like NAMBLA and the necessity of the typical nuclear family for "healthy " children to develop....use any studys statistics no matter how outdated or from whatever biased group. if you have to defend the wrong position you might as well learn how to argue for any non-sense. Just Doorwhat they do on Fox News.

Posted by: Dreamstuff Entity on 2010-02-07, 12:45:56

Both sides of the issue? What are some reasons interracial couples shouldn't adopt?

Posted by: Watev on 2010-02-07, 12:51:19

The ONLY thing that I can think of is that the child might be subject to embarrassment on account of having two fathers or two mothers. Which I think is still a faulty argument, because two people in love shouldn't care what other people say.

Posted by: Ghost Wolf on 2010-02-07, 12:51:28

I would recommend trying an angle on how the negative view of homosexuality could affect the development of the child. How it could affect social interactions, etc. and how it would not be worth putting the child through the turmoil. I'm for them adopting, but that's what I would do under your circumstances.

Posted by: Pangloss (L'Union Fait La Fo on 2010-02-07, 12:52:29

The only logical reason I have for a same sex couple not adopting is that they do not want children. Sorry.

Posted by: WellTraveledProg on 2010-02-07, 12:53:23

There are no valid ones. "The existing body of research in this area does not consider adoption, however; it fails to distinguish between the parenting of a gay person’s biological children and the parenting of adopted children who are unrelated to them. Nevertheless, numerous studies on the more general case of LGBT parenting have been used to counter the claims of opponents, concluding that lesbian mothers do not differ from heterosexual mothers in parenting ability and, while fewer studies exist on gay men and parenting, research suggests gay men may be similar in parenting ability to heterosexual men. Following these studies, a number of professional organizations have made statements in defense of adoption by same-sex couples. The American Psychological Association has supported adoption by same-sex couples, citing social prejudice as harming the psychological health of lesbians and gays while noting there is no evidence that their parenting causes harm. The American Medical Association has issued a similar position supporting same-sex adoption, stating that while there is little evidence against the practice, lack of formal recognition can cause health-care disparities for children of same-sex parents. " Peace.

Posted by: Jedi Jenny on 2010-02-07, 12:54:09

I am with you 100%. I think gays should be able to adopt, and there are no legitimate reasons other than fear and ignorance that people are opposed to this issue. So, you will not find any reliable statistics that prove that gay adaption is bad for anyone involved. With that beings said, most people opposing gay adaption stand by the following arguments: 1) Children who grow up with gay parents will be encouraged to be gay. 2) A child should have the benefit of growing up with an influential woman and man in their life. Without one, they will miss out on important life lessons and experiences. 3) Most people who don't want gays to adopt are also anti-gay in general, so they believe the child is at risk for developing poor values, such as supporting a gay lifestyle. Hope this helps. Also, anyone against gay marriage should read the following: imgur.com/ y3haF

Posted by: Dalton on 2010-02-07, 12:54:33

Well, I support the idea of gays, lesbians and bisexuals being able to adopt, but one common argument I've heard against it is that it would affect the child. He would have to grow up with two moms or two dads and this could affect his or her growth, and he or she might get made fun of at school.

Posted by: conundrum_dragon on 2010-02-07, 13:21:53

The only thing I can see, is that the child will grow up seeing male/ male or female/ female, and think this is normal. They don't want to risk the kids becoming gay. So my growing up in a male/ female house there is a better chance they want. But the fail to see that gay people did grow up in that kind of house so it is pointless.